Fat Sex is Good Sex

Thanks to several fat activists on facebook a study on fat sex has been making the rounds. The small study finds that women who are comfortable with their bodies have better and more satisfying sex lives while women who are uncomfortable with their bodies have less fulfilling sex lives or abstain altogether.  Are you shocked yet? Anything? No? Me neither. Because hating yourself leads to the best sex said no person ever.

Women in the study who said they had begun to embody fat pride reported finally having the confidence to end negative relationships and "retrain" their partners to satisfy them sexually. "As the women experience less body shame and increased confidence, they also seek out or attract partners who treat them better and truly appreciate them,"

Of course, those who seek to keep us down by force feeding hate down our throats might argue that we shouldn't be having sex anyway. Think about that. Think about the quality of life that these people are trying to force on us. You can't be happy until you're thin and since that's not happening for 95% of people you just can't be happy. The women in this study not only had great sex lives but dared to defy the haters by being happy in general.

So my argument is that even if being fat was unhealthy, even if it took ten years off my life or  more, quality matters more than quantity. As The Doctor said, some people live more in 20 years than others do in 80. So if I die at 70 then that's 70 years of happiness and a lot of years of really great sex, friends, family, adventures, and living as opposed to 70 years of being a sad and depressed anxiety filled shut away. I'd rather take the fabulous life thank you.

The Season of The Witch

Awesome witchy photos by James Roddick Photography.

June/July Makeup Free Mondays

Every Monday since June I've been posting to my flickr and my facebook page makeup free shots. I've decided to show these self portraits here, with you. You don't need cosmetics to be beautiful- you don't need anything except for you.

I was feeling pastel-y this day 

be the change you want to see in the world- Gandhi 

now you know what my bedhead looks like

sunflowers are my favorite summer flower

I got this new scarf at the Natural History museum in DC

showing off my copy of Fat The Owners Manual by Ragen Chastain

Wandering Pirate

This is a little big of an older shoot from when I still had white hair. Just took me a little while to get the photos. But as soon as I did I uploaded them for you. Photos are by James Roddick Photography.

Hippie Days

Hope Springs Eternal

A great shoot with Paul Cory at Hope Creek. The water was just perfect although the rocks were a little slippery, but Paul helped me out. The shoot was a lot of fun and I really enjoyed myself. The hike was about 15-20 minutes. We got out after sundown and I forgot my towel so I was hiking back to the car dripping wet! So enjoy!

 

Dear I'm-too-skinny friends,

You're not. You're perfect just the way you are. With or without curves. With or without muscles. Body acceptance isn't limited to fat acceptance and the trouble with weight goes both ways. Some of us can't take it off and some can't put it on. Just because you can't put it on doesn't make you inadequate or less than anyone else.

Okay, yes, you have this whole thin privilege thing, and I'm not saying you shouldn't recognize this and recognize that being fat makes us fatties part of an oppressed group- an oppression that you, as a person with thin privilege, have an impact on. 

What I'm saying is that I recognize the pain that comes with body dissatisfaction no matter what size you are and how harmful calls of "eat a [insert food of choice- cheeseburger, cookie, whatever]" are to your self esteem. I've known people who were ashamed of their thinness because people assumed they had eating disorders (but since when do people with eating disorders deserve to be mocked either, by the way?). Men ashamed of not being "manly" enough because they were very thin. 

But here's the thing- it's just your body. Just the body that you were born with, that takes you through the day. Some of your bodies are healthy strong bodies and some aren't and that's okay too. At the end of the day it's a body that's completely and uniquely yours. You're the person who has to live with that body, so why not love it unconditionally and wholly? Whether thin or fat or anything in between your body is beautiful.